If you’re trying to get fit and lose weight, it can be SO extremely depressing and difficult. As someone whose body clings to fat as though I’m in a concentration camp (or will be lol), I feel like I can understand the frustration that comes with seeing slower results than people with faster metabolisms.
Fitness, or losing fat and gaining muscle, always depends largely on your diet – not BEING on a certain kind of new, flashy, popular diet, but literally the things you’re eating day in and day out. The reason why I post so much of our food preps and recipe ideas I’ve created over the years, is because fitness truly is about 80% what you eat, and 20% exercise.
We go to a gym almost daily during the week to lift and do some cardio (sometimes), and there are all types of fit people we see. Unfortunately, there are also a couple of women we see and have seen since 2015, who have actually gained weight over the 3 years we’ve been there. While it could be a combination of things (not working out hard or long enough – smart exercise in other words, or bad eating habits or even hormones out of whack, as in hypothyroidism), you always have to look at your diet if this is happening to you. Even hormonal problems with weight can usually be controlled when you stick to a very strict and proper diet that is tailored to only YOUR specific biological needs. Sometimes it takes just a visit to the doctor to get tested, but there is usually a solution out there somewhere.
The most important thing though that trainers don’t usually say, probably because they figure you’ll find this to be common sense, is to just simply not give up!
I’m serious! All of the women that I know who have lost lots and lots of weight through the fitness groups I’m active in, the ones who have been the most successful were the ones who just NEVER GAVE UP.
You will fail! Fitness, for women whose bodies biologically hold on to fat, is VERY hard. Even for models who are “naturally thin,” if they stop their very strict eating habits and rigorous exercise routines, they gain weight fairly fast, too.
Everyone fails at times. Even the most successful, beautiful women I’ve talked to personally who have done bikini competitions (and placed!!!!), even THEY feel like a failure at times in their own personal journeys. There are ups and downs in life, there are periods of time where you won’t be able to stick to something that works because a major life event happened that you weren’t prepared for (child death, parental death… anything!). I’ve seen things like this happen, and I’ve seen the women who get back up and keep on going eventually find success.
You’re going to backslide at some point. It’s just the honest truth. You need to accept that it will happen so that when it happens, you aren’t mentally derailed and depressed about it. There was once a woman in a church group I was in who got fairly angry at me when I tried to tell her this and warn her about not expecting success right away. Her retort was that she was completely backed up with Scriptures and the Holy Spirit and that it was for sure going to work this time. Even years later when I saw her again, she was still overweight. But that kind of mentality she insisted upon is a recipe for disaster! Again, it’s better to humble yourself, realize that you’re only human, and maybe a woman with a propensity to hold onto fat like you’re a dying person lol, and roll with the ups and downs.
What truly matters is persistence and the resolve that you’re not going to let failure make you stop.
I’ve talked to a few trainers now 🙂 they are the most awesome people in my mind ❤ So encouraging, optimistic and sweet! But I don’t think they tell people this when they first start out on a journey to try to be fit or lose weight.
You have to be really patient and kind to yourself. I’ve known quite a few women who came to their journey through hating their bodies as they were – seeing a photo on facebook where it suddenly hits them how far they’ve let themselves go is a big one. And maybe that is enough motivation to get them through to the end.
But I’ve also seen that it’s good to look at this journey as loving yourself and finally taking care of your body the way you should have been. Self-hatred may not be the best way longterm, as I know it drives other eating disorders like anorexia as well as over-eating. Changing the way you think about your body can be so empowering in getting in shape.
And truly loving yourself and valuing yourself shows up by taking care of the only body you have. If you’re Christian, there’s even a deeper spiritual element to why you need to take good care of your body:
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;”
1 Corinthians 6:19
So keep going. No matter where you are in your journey… if you have over 100 pounds to lose, or just 10, DO NOT GIVE UP.